Pain is real 

And a lot of times we don’t know what to do with it 

It’s our pain but we can easily blame it on our circumstances 

Most of the time we project it on others rather than dissect it for ourselves and do what we need to do to heal 

Allowing two words to dictate your direction of focus 

Our ears itch to hear “i’m sorry” because it makes us feel right 

here is a beautiful component about healing 

Healing can begin when you choose to forgive before the apology 

What’s more important? 

long term healing or short term feelings? 

I get it 

we all have pain 

but bitterness is just a safe place for us to tell ourselves we are valid in our feelings justifying the position to be right rather than seeking to understand someones elses side we all want to be heard 

we all want to be understood 

but when you understand what it means to serve 

you realize going second or third brings more joy than itching to be first 

when it is not used in the right way 

pain blames 

when it is used in the right way 

pain can bring forth growth and change 

You can use it for change or you can use it for excuses 

do you justify your logic through the backdoor of your emotions 

Causing a slippery slope to your summit because once pride arises instantly you start to plummet You talk yourself out of what you ought to do and talk yourself into the doom and gloom of self-pity

repeating the cycle of one of life’s toughest obstacles 

Pain 

Don’t allow your pain to cause you to look past the significance of your eternal destiny 

temporary setbacks are nothing compared to the future glory we will share from the one who holds the keys to everlasting life 

Do you want to know who had the most pain? 

Jesus 

and he holds the keys to Heaven where you will be free from all pain 

when you know who he is 

you know who you are 

when you know who you are 

your identity is in the one who does not change 

so even when your circumstances change 

you are rooted in the one who stays the same 

when you don’t know who he is 

you search for anything to validate who you think you want to be 

basing your decisions on your feelings 

which will always be a reaction to your circumstances 

Whenever you have feelings of doubt, shame, or fear 

pray 

Believe the promise that he has already given you 

Your eyes are taken off of yourself and your eyes go to him 

You can give him praises for days 

And when you come back to yourself 

you’re in better shape 

You remember where you come from 

you learn from the bad days